This story pretty much sums up the whole blog.
You are driving down the road in your car on a wild, stormy night when you pass by a bus stop, and you see three people waiting for the bus:
- An old lady who looks as if she is about to die.
- An old friend who once saved your life.
- The perfect partner you have been dreaming about.
Which one would you choose to offer a ride to, knowing that there could only be one passenger in your car?
Think before you continue reading. You could pick up the old lady, because she is going to die, and thus you should save her first. Alternatively, you could take the old friend because he once saved your life, and this would be the perfect chance to pay him back. However, you may never be able to find your perfect mate again.
The best answer is “I would give the car keys to my old friend and let him take the lady to the hospital. I would stay behind and wait for the bus with the partner of my dreams.”
Sometimes, we gain more if we can give up our stubborn thought limitations. Never forget to “Think Outside of the Box.” Daniel Goleman provided a compelling & accurate case on why Emotional Intelligence was important & still is. However, as humans, it is our principal responsibility to think things through.
While science proves that both EQ & IQ results only in temporary improvements; PQ (Positive Intelligence) on the other hand is the real thing that delivers long results.
In a typical day, humans think around 75,000 thoughts. So, in a way, your mind is your best friend, and alternately it is your worst enemy too. For instance, when your mind tells you to prepare for tomorrow’s meeting, it is acting as a friend, causing positive action. However, when this same mind wakes you up at 3 am & makes you nervous about the meeting, this is now acting like an enemy.
Your PQ is the percentage your time your mind serves you as opposed to harming you. For example, PQ of 85 means that your mind is serving you 85 of the time & damaging you 25% of the time. Compelling evidence suggests that teams having a higher PQ & salesperson having PQ greater than their IQ are succeeding 35% higher than people with higher IQ or EQ.
3 Strategies to increase your PQ
1. Murder your Monkey Brain
As Seth Godin puts in his book Linchpin, it is of higher importance to silence the mind and come up with a strategy to defeat that Monkey brain of yours. This monkey brain, when not trained rights can lead to serious consequences. A good way to start is by asking yourself. Are you acting like a victim or the hero in your narrative of your story? Time after time I have realized that it does not matter what everyone thinks if you are the narrator of your story. Think positive & talk to yourself in the most inspiring way. Every day spend some time alone, to de-clutter yourself with the boring story you tell yourself.
2. Shift your perspective
If anyone asks me for one advice that helped me all these years. I promptly reply with ‘Shift your perspective‘ It makes life worth following your universal purpose. Moreover, it keeps you to stay on the right track all the time.
People will talk, talking is the only thing people can do. You, on the other hand, holds the key to your brain. I know it is hard to think positive in every situation. However, trust me with a bit of practice you can ace your brain. When you are confused about something, or something is bothering you. Try changing your approach. Try visualizing a positive outcome. Relax your mind a bit. Like take a walk in a park, take a Coffee break, or talk to someone you admire. This will help your brain to shift your thinking & focus on the power of ‘now.’
3. Strengthen PQ Brain muscles
The PQ Brain “muscles” are activated and strengthened when you command your mind to stop its busy mind chatter and direct its attention to any of your five physical sensations. An example might be to feel the weight of your body on your seat, or feet on the floor, or sensations of your breathing.
This might appear simplistic, but it is backed by a massive amount of research. Every time you attempt such a shift of attention for about 10 seconds, you are regaining grip of your mind. Practice gratitude. Every day take out some time to count your blessings. This simple act will immensely guide your brain towards an active & more productive life.
Without a strong foundation of Positive Intelligence, attempts at improving the performance or personal fulfillment are analogous to planting elaborate new gardens while leaving voracious snails free to roam. The wise investment is to raise Positive Intelligence first. The results are often reported to be game-changing for the team and life changing for the individual.